In consideration of Valentines day here is a list of fifty things that you can give to your spouse that will mean more and cost less than flowers or chocolate (though I recommend those as well). This list was compiled from a few different sources over several years and reflects the oft overlooked kindnesses that can make all the difference.

1. Start each day with a kiss

2. Wear your wedding ring at all times

3. Date once a week

4. Accept differences

5. Be polite

6. Be gentle

7. Give gifts

8. Smile often

9. Touch

10. Talk about dreams

11. Choose a song that can be “your song”

12. Give back rubs

13. Laugh together

14. Send a card for no reason

15. Do what your spouse wants before being asked

16. Listen

17. Encourage

18. Do it the other’s way

19. Know your mate’s needs

20. Fix his (her) favorite breakfast

21. Compliment your partner twice a day

22. Call just to say “I love you”

23. Slow down

24. Hold hands

25. Cuddle

26.  Ask your spouse’s opinion

27.  Show respect

28. Welcome each other home

29. Look your best for your mate

30. Wink at each other

31. Celebrate birthdays in a big way

32. Apologize

33. Forgive

34. Set up a romantic getaway

35. Ask, “What can I do to make you happier?”

36. Be positive

37. Be kind

38. Be vulnerable

39. Respond quickly to your mate’s requests

40. Talk about your love

41. Reminisce about your favorite times together

42. Treat his (her) friends and relatives with courtesy

43. Send flowers every Valentine’s Day and anniversary

44. Admit when you are wrong

45. Be sensitive to your mate’s sexual desires

46. Pray for him (her) daily

47. Watch sunsets together

48. Say “I love you” frequently

49. End each day with a hug

50. Seek outside help when you need it

Jeremy Stalnecker is the Executive Director of the Mighty Oaks Foundation which is dedicated to helping America’s military warriors and their families who are suffering from the unseen wounds of combat. While growing up Jeremy’s only goal was to leave home and join the Marine Corps. This dream was finally realized with an active duty commission in 1999 which opened the door to serve as a Marine Infantry Officer during the opening days of the war in Iraq. One month after returning from Iraq, Jeremy entered full-time ministry and eventually accepted a senior pastor role. He later accepted a full-time position with the Mighty Oaks Foundation which brought together his ministry and military experience in a way that allows him to minister to hurting veterans, service members and their families. Along with his wife and their four children, Jeremy works to reach the hurting and provide healing found in Christ.

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